Go reflect & think
I’m extremely agitated and pissed off right now.. Took your friend for granted recently? Treated your friend like shit recently? Showed your friend attitude and expect them to accept it recently?
I’m sure most people out there have buckets of aquaintances, handful of friends and countable close friends. Your close friends and you definitely have this unspoken rule that you can treat them anyway you like and taking them for granted to a certain extent without them getting angry. Or so at least that’s what i think. But what happens if your close friend (i’ll use CF here) starts to cross the line and goes overboard? What do you do then?
Even for close friends i’m sure you do treat them nicely, with the occasional bitching and teasing, talk to them without showing attitude (to some people it may be their normal tone of voice). But honestly, if you know that certain actions will irritate or agitate your CF, you just simply wouldn’t do it! Especially if your CF has told you repeatedly before that this particular action will seriously piss him/her off.
Some people out there are just generally more straightforward than others. Is that a good thing? Who is to say that it is a positive or negative trait? Sure one might argue that straightforwardness is a good characteristic to have as one will voice out their unhappiness on the spot so that the other party will know. But on the other side, where is the person’s EQ? Does he/she lack EQ to know that certain situations/problems you have with the other party cannot and some even should not be voiced out on the spot?
Then here comes the problem of blowing up at your CF. Being close friends you wouldn’t pick on every little thing that your CF does to irritate you now would you? OF course you wouldn’t! You would tend to close one eye and wave it off as he/she is in your premier friendship club with multiple fringe benefits. But there reaches a time where your CF does all the littles things, which you have told them before not to do, constantly to irritate you. Then what do you do then? Talk to them again like you did the previous time and then they’ll acknowledge but not do anything and the whole cycle repeats itself once more? Or do you set the standard straight now and let them know that you’re really pissed (some people would call this blowing up, which is true to a certain extent)?
Things that you would need morphine to calm me down for:
1). Not saying a "goodbye" or "bye" or "cya" or "ciao" or "ta" or "later" when you end a conversation on the phone and you simply just hang up. To me it’s outright rude, it doesn’t show the other respect as though the reciever owes you a living and has to do your bidding w/o any form of formalities. It also reflects badly on your upbringing, showing that your parents did not impart to you simple communication manners. This definitely tops the list for me.
2). Little irritating actions such as friendly punching, teasing, pinching(nipple or non-nipple), smack-on-the-backs which are done over-exccessively. Sure, it’s fun for a short while to irritate your friend, but doing it too many times gets pretty irritating like those houseflies that hover around your food when you’re eating and you can’t do anything about them cos you don’t wanna smack them and risk smacking your food too. So, you better stop it when i give you the "stop-it-before-i-get-the-pliers-from-the-garage-and-twist-off-your-fingers-and-nipplets" look. Ask bryan what i did to him when he crossed the limit with his pinching in class, that obviously got the both of us (mainly me) into trouble for.
3). Saying a simple greeting when you meet your friend. Now is that really that difficult? To me it’s a simple basic form of courtesy. You greet a person when you meet them. It’s that simple, really.
Quote of the day: "Don’t take your friends for granted. Piss him/her off and you’ll risk losing more than just a friend."
’nuff for now. I’m hungry. Going to find food.
